URL changed AGAIN

Assalammualaikum.
I'm terribly sorry, i gotta change my url again.
It is now http://nur-akmar.blogspot.com

Why?

Because:

1. I myself had trouble spelling the url correctly everytime i want to type it out fast.
2. It's difficult for people to remember my url.

Sorry, please change my link on your link list, again.

Sorry for troubling.

Thank you. =P

He is Enough for Me

In MUET (Malaysian University English Test) speaking component, examinees will be given a topic and they're supposed to discuss on the topic, in a group.

For my exam, my topic was something like, where should we go to when we're in trouble. And I was supposed to answer "parents" (yeah, the question will give you the answer, you should just construct your own words and play along. Other examinees will get different answers, that was how the exam goes) 

The reason I gave was parents are definitely older than us and so, they know more things than we know, most of the time more than what we think they know. And so, going to them for moral support is very recommended because chances are, they went through this problem we're having in early 20s. 

I also said that going to peers are not well recommended, for the fact that peers are as inexperienced as we are. Peers might be having just the same problem we are having. In Malay language, there's a proverb, "bagai ketam mengajar anaknya berjalan lurus". Literally translated, it means "like a crab teaching it's kids(?) to walk straight". My own created English proverb: "A monkey teaching another monkey how to cook using a microwave oven".

That is precisely the reason why I am very grateful for my family. A very supportive parents, whom I know I can always fall back on when anything goes wrong. My mum said that's one of the reason I always do things blatantly, because I know I can fall back on them, morally. And I am pretty sure some if not many of us have a supportive family, I hope so.

But, what if the problem does not only inflict us as an individual?
What if it inflicted the whole family?
Say, the sickness of a family member, or worse, the death of a family member.

At that point, every member of that family has their own grief to attend to, despite having to be supportive to each other.
At this point, family members cannot afford to fall back onto their family for moral support, each and every one of them needs something to fall back on, no energy to support someone else.

Wanna hope for non family members?
Slim chance there will be anyone, unless you're blessed with caring, patient friends.  =)

"HasbiAllahu laa ilaaha illaa Huwa 'alayhi tawakkaltu wa Huwa Rabbul Arshil Adheem"

please please please read all the meanings in this post. they are very beautiful. I know some readers will tend to scroll down but, believe me, these meanings are worth reading, and knowing. And they really are not many of them. =)

Allah is sufficient for me. 

There is none worthy of worship but Him. I have placed my trust in Him. He is Lord of the Majestic Throne
And so, feel free to fall back on Him.
For He is always near to us. What we need to do is just pray to Him. Just pray to Him.

He promised, he'll be there for us.

"When My servant ask you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every supplicant when he calls on Me; let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe in Me: that they may walk in the right way" [2;186]"
He promised! Yes, He promised!
=)

And there's another promise, we will not be burdened more than what we can bear.
We will only be tested with bearable tests, those within our capabilities.

"Allah does not impose upon any soul a duty but to the extent of its ability" [2;286]

****A strong reminder to myself, and to friends out there. He promised, He'll be there for us. Any other being in this world can promise that? To be there whenever you need them? To be ready to listen to any of your cries? And to really really be there when you need them? ****

Sincerely from, 
-AkMaR-
http://ineffabledivineserenity.blogspot.com

Monday 3rd May 2010
10.25pm

New URL

Yeah, sorry...
I know this is kinda troubling but, I don't think I should stick with the url akmarr90.
It's too personal.

So, remember to change my url in your link list, if you have one.

Again, sorry for any inconvenience caused.
=)

-AkMaR-
http://ineffabledivineserenity.blogspot.com

Sunday 2nd May 2010
2.22pm

The Power of Love

A conversation between 2 little girls:

"What do you want to be when you grow big?"
"I want to be a nurse...."
"Ooohh, I want to be a doctor.."

At this point, the adults stopped listening,

"No, you cant. You have to become a nurse before you can be a doctor...."
"Really?"

And today (1st May 2010), is the wedding day of one of the girls.

I met her more than 10 years ago, when my first uncle received his first daughter.
She's my auntie's (my uncle's wife) niece.
At that time, I did not know how old was she, but I was about 6 or 7 years old.
I think she was of the same size with me, perhaps same age, or maybe a year or two older, or younger. I really can't remember.
And I've never seen her after that.
There was never an occasion where these our families met again. Maybe I did meet her, I just did not know that it was her.

And tonight, I attended her wedding.

And as all of you might be thinking, which of the girls was me.

I was the one who said I wanted to be a nurse, because a nurse will be promoted to become a doctor. 

I don't mind people laughing at me, I was in my pre-school! At least I know that doctors and nurses work together, and there is such a thing called promotion. =)

Mum told me last week that my "old friend" is getting married.
I was shocked, she couldn't be much older than me.
If she's not my age, she might just be a year or two older.
And she's getting married?
That's good news!
I remembered mum told me that her father is a doctor.
*I don't know why but I felt very acquainted as soon as I hear that her father is a doctor. Silly of me..*

And so tonight, I attended my "old friend"'s wedding, a very old friend that I don't even remember her name neither her face.

The wedding was not a huge one, only close friends and family were invited.
Nevertheless, it was grand.
The bride's house was a big bungalow.
One do not have to be smart to know that this doctor is not just any doctor, to own a house like this.
And I would say the family was a wealthy one.
The menu was mutton and fish. And the rice was served in a goat's abdomen.
Urrgh, I don't know how to describe it, it sounded gross now.
It wasn't gross, it was unique instead.


And then, I got to know that the bride is 23 years old, she IS a bit older than me.
But it is still considerably an early age to get married, relative to the culture now. We got to know that the bride had just graduated this year while the groom has started working. Perhaps he is a year or two older than his wife.
My mum praises the marriage however.
She IS into early marriages, or at least she does not oppose it.
According to her, it's the society that made it hard for a couple to get married.
The society made it in such a way that the couple must have a steady career, steady background, steady finance etc etc before getting married.
But, it is human nature that they want companionship.
Hence, young couples will get together, and some of them might just go the wrong way, to get companionship, without marriage.

"Why can't a couple go through their life together, getting stable together and achieving success together, married?" -quoted from, my mum.

Frankly, looking at the bride and groom, I felt a sudden rush of jealousy.
But jealousy, is not at all time bad, isn't it?
Just like fear can be a good motivation, *quoted* jealousy can also be a good motivation.
And don't ask me what kind of drive did it give me, I'd like to keep it to myself. =)
A jealousy without hoping the other party being inflicted with something bad, is a good jealousy.

Then there was a surprise performance.
The bride's elder brother sang for his newly-wed younger sister.
For me, that was a very sweet and pleasant gift from an elder brother.
Dush! Another rush of jealousy in me... *evil Akmar*

Mum said to me while looking at the newly-weds, "They have the whole life ahead of them, they have to go through everything that comes their way from now on, together". A wise saying from an experienced tough woman.

Going to a wedding of someone not so much older than me got me thinking.
Got me thinking a LOT.
And then, seeing my parents in the car, made me think even MORE.
What did I think about?
Again, I'd prefer keeping it to myself.
=)

What's the point of this post?
: To tell the whole world that I have just came back from a beautiful wedding.

I sincerely wish the new young married couple a happy, blissful and adventurous life ahead. Amin... =)

Why the title "The Power of Love"?
:The song was played in the wedding just now. And somehow I can't stop humming the chorus, it's stucked in my head. Might as well put it as the title. =)


-AkMaR-
http://akmarr90.blogspot.com


Saturday, 2nd May 2010.
12.30am

Viva Palestina Malaysia Charity Bazaar

Viva Palestina Malaysia is organising a charity bazaar in Bangsar Shopping Centre on the 8th and 9th May.
There will be clothes, handbags and household items for sale.
Food (nasi beriyani, nasi turki, nasi dagang, quiche and cakes) and also drinks to fulfil your appetite!
There will also be lots other activities eg face-painting, art competition, quiz and performances by artists.


Do come and visit the bazaar!
Have fun! =)


-AkMaR-
 http://akmarr90.blogspot.com

Saturday, 1st May 2010
12.34am

Quote

"Anyone who can bow down to God, can stand up to anything"




I love this quote!
=)

-AkMaR-
 http://akmarr90.blogspot.com

Friday 30th April 2010
11.17pm

Just If That Did Not Happen

"Just if that did not happen, i could have............"


"If I did not................ I might have..............."


"Just if........................"


I think most of us might have said or at least thought of these sentences at any part of our life.
Or worse, some of us might still think this and kept in heart for years, regretting of something that had happened years ago.


I read that Muslims are not supposed to say "just if i hadn't done this etc etc" when something goes wrong, because everything that happened are the work of God, and there is no way we could have changed it. I'm sorry but I only know that this is from a hadith, a Sahih Muslim.


I had, thought of these sentences before.
But not for long because I clearly know that if that did not happen, other things might have happened, and whatever I am facing now will not happen.
So for me, anyone who hold on to the sentence is actually someone who DOES NOT appreciate what he/she is having in his/her life now.


If whatever it is that that person regret happened did not happen, he/she will not have what he/she has in his life now.


              Z lost his watch in a camping he went with friends last semester holiday. He went to search for the watch with his friends and they spent 1 hour looking for it all around, under the tent, behind the trees, beside the river, behind the toilet, basically everywhere. But they couldn't find it. 


            Z regretted bringing that watch to the camping, his mother had even reminded him not to bring it there because he was a very careless boy. Z brought it because he wanted to show his friends his new watch. Now, Z is already at home, telling his mother that he lost the watch. He was scolded. 


          Z regretted so much that he wished he could have turned back the time so that he will not bring that watch, or leave that watch unattended during the camp. He is willing to exchange almost anything he has to turn the time back. 


         Two years passed, Z still cannot forget the watch and he still regrets bringing the watch to the camping. He bought a new watch but, he still long for the old watch.


In my honest opinion, Z shouldn't have regretted, things happened, the damage is done. 
If he had not lose his watch at that time, he would not have searched for the watch for an hour with his friends. The watch-hunt miraculously strengthened their friendship and they are the best friends Z can ever bargain for. 


Or, if he had not lose the watch, Z would not have learnt from his mistake not to leave his belongings unattended. He might leave even more valuable things unattended, say his wallet or mobile phone.


Had Z not lose the watch, something else might had happened to him. They will not be an hour late, but they might have got involved with an accident on their way back home. They escaped that accident because they were an hour late, searching for the watch.


Had Z not lose the watch, his mother would not have scolded him. By scolding him, his mother might had avoided some other bad things in her life. His mother might be tired after scolding him and decided to rest at home when initially she planned to go to the market. Maybe on that day, the meat sold in the market were infected meat. People eating that meat were sent to the hospital for food poisoning. Seeing him scolded, his siblings knew and learnt that they should listen when their mum asked them not to bring valuables to camping. 


So many things happened just because of ONE thing, be it a good or a bad thing.
And ALL these had been planned by Him. Nothing can change His law, His plan. Nothing can challenge His power.


And by regretting his action bringing the watch to the camping, Z is not being appreciative. 
He does not appreciate the fact that he is still alive when he could have been killed in the accident he missed by being an hour late. He does not appreciate the fact that his siblings have became one step wiser, learning from his mistake instead of making their own. He does not appreciate the friendship he has now with his friends, which was greatly strengthened by the watch-hunting process.
He also does not appreciate the fact that his mother is still alive and well, for avoiding something bad in her life, had she not spent time scolding him 2 years back.


I know this example may sound ridiculous but, it applies, the concept is still there.
Would you want to turn your time back, change some things and risk everything you have now? 




Just if my mum did not meet my dad, this post will not be here.
And Obama might not even be the president of US!
Who knows, a lot of things happened as a consequence of my parents' meeting.
It's not impossible isn't it?
=)
-AkMaR-
http://akmarr90.blogspot.com

30th April 2010
5.23pm